So you did the elimination protocol and started the fertility diet. You are eating more whole foods and less processed food. You are feeling great and know you are getting closer and closer to having your baby. But…then your friends make plans that involve food as many do and someone comments on how extreme, unrealistic or restrictive your new lifestyle is. This blog is here to help you navigate these situations and understand what is really going on.
You choose what you share
Before we go too far, it is important to note that you get to choose what you disclose to whom. Whether you choose to tell your friends and family that you are changing your diet to improve your chances of pregnancy success or just start recommending new restaurants because it makes you feel better, the choice is yours. We suggest discussing this with your partner before your first outing so you can both be on the same page.
What they are really saying
When someone tells you they think your new lifestyle is “too much,” “unrealistic” or restrictive, it is usually because they are struggling to navigate something themselves with their choices and lifestyle. Perhaps they aren’t feeling great in their body and are so stuck in their patterns that they can’t imagine navigating the changes you are making. Maybe they are even jealous that you are taking action. 99% of the time, it has absolutely nothing to do with you.
Tips to navigate social outings
- Suggest the restaurant: Oftentimes no one really wants to make the decision around food anyway. Take this as an opportunity to find restaurants where you can confidently eat and recommend going there.
- Plan non-food activities: Switch up the routine and find something to do that doesn’t involve food at all like kayaking, axe throwing, or an interactive class.
- Don’t be afraid to speak up: Again, you choose how much you tell people but it’s much easier for both you and your friends if you say ahead of time, “I am not eating dairy” versus showing up to a party and there is nothing for you to eat. You can offer to bring something or let them show up for you because they care about your wellbeing. But remember, they can’t show up for you if you don’t give them the opportunity.
- Tell them how it makes you feel: Tell them about your wins like less brain fog, no longer feeling bloated, sleeping better. Let them get a glimpse into your new life. Who knows, you may even inspire them. For people meeting you with resistance, sometimes all it takes is saying, “thanks for your concern but honestly, not eating gluten makes me feel amazing”.
- Avoid the topics that you don’t want to discuss or change the subject: If talking about your lifestyle changes causes friction or anxiety, don’t talk about it. There are plenty of other things you can talk about.
What not to do
Just because you are making lifestyle changes that are both new for you as well as your friends and family, that doesn’t mean you have to hermit. It is important to continue to engage in activities that spark joy and help you relax. Although you may find certain experiences challenging at first, practice makes progress. It gets easier. We know because we’ve done it! And the coolest part, many of our family and friends have joined us over the years, ultimately raising awareness and demand! What a win-win that is for the entire world!
To learn more about how the Fab Fertile Method can help improve your chances of getting pregnant naturally, apply here. We’ll come up with a plan specifically designed for your situation. We specialize in low AMH, high FSH, premature ovarian insufficiency, and diminished ovarian reserve.
Blog by Samantha Coffin – Fertility Coach at Fab Fertile Inc.